Recently I have been reflecting about the way I interact with people in my daily life. Too often I am too outspoken, too harsh, and certainly too judgmental. I often think everything it is just about me or in general it just affects my life. Well about two weeks ago something happened that actually made a change in the way I normally think and interact with people.
We picked up the young couple that helps Janit and I around the house one Thursday and as we were coming home Josh says, "I know those dogs running down the road over there. They belong our friends that live on (so and so) road." I said man that is about 8 to 10 miles from here, what would they be doing over here. Katie, his wife said that the dogs have a bad habit of following the owners when they leave in the car and the dogs must have gotten lost.
So we proceeded to spend the next 30 mins catching one dog, and losing sight of the other. We drove the one dog home and thought this should really make the owners happy getting one of their dogs back and to be given an area to search for the other. Well folks nothing could have prepared me for what happened next. We dropped the dog off and on the way home, Katie received a text from the wife of their friend saying the husband had returned just before we arrived from dumping the dogs. They wanted to get rid of the dogs so rather than turn them over to the Animal Shelter, he just drove them a distance from the house and let them loose on the road. I was so pissed off. I cursed for hours out loud and under my breath calling these people every name in the book. I went so far as to tell Josh that Karma will settle this score before it is all said and done, and I truly believed it.
Fast forward two weeks.....
We were shopping in Food Lion with Josh and Katie when they stopped and talked to a lady in the store. Janit said, "She really looks familiar." Come to find out it was the wife of the dumb ass that dumped the dogs. She informed Josh that her husband had had a 4 wheeler wreck earlier in the day and had broken several bones, and was laying in the hospital with a concussion and pins in several bones in his body.
One word folks.... KARMA
So I started thinking about the things that have not been going right in my life and I realized that everything is not always about me or us.
1. We haven't closed on the house because there are others involved that would have been hurt and put out if we had closed as early as we had hoped. This involved a family with two children that already is having difficult times.
2. I also started bitching to Janit about having to move in the cold weather because of this delay. Then today I woke up and remembered that I had denied the neighbor, who plans to move onto this property when we move, the opportunity to come over and repair the fences around the pasture. It dawned on me that I was in fact forcing her to wait until it was possibly miserable outside and too cold to actually take the time to repair the fences properly. This is Karma folks.
So I have decided that from here on out I am going to force myself to take an extra amount of time to honestly think about the things I do and say that affect me and my life as it may also have some bearing on how it affects others I interact with. I may still end up being an asshole but it will be based a certain level of conscience thought.