Okay this is going to be a totally fictitious story that probably happens in a lot of households, anywhere in the world:
Imagine spending your life with a woman that spends hours a day on the phone listening to her children, or her sibling crying over some huge crisis in their life, that had they listened to their mom/sister in the first place the crisis never would have developed.
Imagine a woman who never says no to a friend, or a child. Imagine a woman that gives day in and day out and never asks for anything in return. Imagine the most loving caring wife, or friend you could ever hope for but don't deserve.
Now imagine her crying for hours on end over the people in her life that continually hurt her, and imagine her being lied to and ignored by these same people when their crisis passes and things seem to be more at ease in their life.
Imagine these people blaming her for the destruction of their family or dysfunctional childhood, when it was her husband or their father that cheated on her and betrayed not only her trust but the trust the family placed in him. Imagine these people blaming her for finding someone else in her life that treats her like a queen and cherishes the ground she walks on. Imagine these people blaming her for not sticking through the mental abuse to make lives better for their ungrateful lives.
In this fictitious story I think it is only fair to tell these ungrateful, leeches to stop calling her when your world is falling apart. Stop calling her when your spouse finds a more interesting non-whining lover. Stop calling her when you need money. Stop calling her when your electricity or phone is cutoff. Stop calling her to ask for advice you never accept or follow, which then leads to further drama in your life.
Stop calling all together unless you have the time to come see her when you promise her you will. Stop calling her unless you can remember her fvcking birthday. Stop calling her unless you can remember Mother's day as easily as you remember father's day. Stop calling her unless you pay back the money she constantly "lends" you. Stop calling her unless you are going to be there and hold her at night when her children/sister choose to lie to her again.
The one non-fictitious part of this story is this, one day you will call and she will be gone. One day you will need that shoulder to cry on and she will be gone. One day you'll want to hear her laugh and she will be gone. One day you will just want to be able to look at her beautiful face again and she will be gone. When that day comes, I hope for your sake you have found someone else that you can abuse to ease your pain because she will not be the one crying for you ever again. One day God will ease her pain and you will no longer have to worry about making up stories and lies that will just hurt her again.